Dear , New Mothers ….

To all my New Mother’s out there I want to say congratulations!! It’s okay to not really know how you feel when you first find out that you are expecting it’s a lot to take in at first. When I first found out I was overcome with every emotion all at once, then I was I thought WTH 😩!!!! I can barely take care of myself how am I supposed to take care of a baby. It wasn’t until I got the first sonogram that I got this sense of courage where I knew they I could do this, I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy task but the greatest gifts in life are never easy to obtain. This would be something that changed me and my life for the better.

Becoming a Mother is one of the most emotionally satisfying things that you can ever experience, birth is something you will never forget. It’s all worth it in the end.

I am learning that just like you can be your biggest supporter you also be your biggest critic. Time and time again I put myself down and start doubting myself as a parent over the littlest things. I will never forget that my son was just a few weeks old and he ended up getting thrush, for those who don’t know what that is it’s a yeast infection in the mouth that babies can get from milk being left on their tongue. It’s a very common thing for them to get but, I felt like I was the worst mother in the world. That experience taught me that things are going to happen beyond my control and you can either beat yourself up about it or do what you need to do to make the situation better!

A few tips / Words of Wisdom

1.”Everyone is going to have an Opinion”- from the time I found out I was pregnant to the time I gave birth. EVERYBODY wanted to tell me what to do, what not to do etc…… I’m not saying that advice is a bad thing because as a first-time mother I didn’t know a lot of things but, it got to a point where everyone was drowning me with their opinions it just felt like too much.So I advise any New mother to appreciate the advice but also know when to ignore it because there is something you have to learn on your own.

2. ”it’s okay to need a break ” this is the most important thing that I am learning, its okay to get overwhelmed and ask for help because babies can be a lot! Speak up when your baby won’t stop crying and you feel like your going to lose it sometimes you have to take a couple minutes to compose yourself. If you need to get out for a little bit find someone who is willing to babysit so that you can go for a walk just get you some ”Me time”.

3. ”Schedules are everything ” I am learning that with your baby and even yourself it’s important to establish a schedule. Trust me it will help in the long run.

4. ”Breastfeeding is Hard” I always knew I wanted to breastfeed but, I never knew how challenging it could be.. From the sore nipples to the latching and pumping it can be a lot at first. my advice to you is to set a goal, I wanted to breastfeed at least until four months and keeping that in mind helped me reach my goal. I am even thinking about continuing for two more months. If you can’t keep up with that’s completely fine!!!! You have to learn what’s best for you!

5. ”Don’t compare yourself to other mom” EVERYONE is different that’s just something beyond our control. So if you see another mother that looks like she has everything figured out don’t put yourself down about it. Befriend her and ask her all her secrets, you have to remember that this is a learning experience and babies di do not come with instructions. So we have to stick together


The Things Nobody wants to talk about 😩

They always say everything changes when you become a mother .. Your probably thinking well duh ! The body changes , The mood swings .. but they never really tell you about what happens afterbirth . Mentally and Emotionally I wish someone could tell me about the fight that you have to put up .. when you’re holding your 2-day old baby in your arms uncontrollably sobbing because you feel so overwhelmed.

Let me be the first to say the first couple of months can be hard. There are going to be times where you feel overwhelmed, times where you feel like depression has latched itself on to you. Times where you may what to even give

Just Remeber YOU CAN DO IT!!! No matter how hard things get you have to realize you were chosen to take on the amazing task of becoming a Mother. It’s a long road ahead especially if you’re in the first stretch like me with a four-month-old, the best advice I can offer is to find ONE friend someone you can vent, cry even scream too about everything you feel, someone who is positive and can uplift you at your lowest. if you don’t have a reliable friend that’s fine go buy a journal and get to writing! Write about your feelings and what can help you feel better, write an encouraging letter to yourself if need be. Find something that makes you sane and helps you get through it!

Motherhood is a Sisterhood Stop shaming and putting down each other and start Uplifting and encouraging ‼️