Postpartum Depression & Ways To Help ❤️

Giving birth is the most beautiful miracle ever! Seeing and holding your baby for the first time is the heartwarming moment ever. You might even be in shock that you actually just birthed a human being… But once it finally sets in some mother endure one of the hardest silent battles ever… Postpartum Depression or Baby blues happens after childbirth and can be caused by a number of reasons, you have to adjust to caring for and learning about your new born. While dealing with your after birth body which you might not be comfortable about. You might feel scared or overwhelming with everything that has happened all in a matter if weeks. Everyone’s situation is different but, at the end of the day we are all humans with emotions and I feel like we often forget that.

Dealing with postpartum is like having this black cloud over you. You aren’t yourself, you might even have some resentment towards your child. You feel like the worst mother in the world and not even know why. You will feel sad and really low and want to reach out but not know how. When people ask ”how do you feel?” you’ll probably lie and say you’re ”fine” when in reality you can’t tell them that all you do is cry, you don’t feel pretty, you feel alone. You just feel stuck like you are crying for help but, no one cares.. it may even get to the point where you feel the need to self harm or may even want to harm your baby. If or when you feel this please, seek help! I promise you it will get better! Even right now I have my days where it tries to creep back but, I learned that it is a mental and emotional fight!! You have to surround you and your child with all the love you can find. Seek genuine encouragement to keep going. Use your child as your reason to keep going because you are what they need! Continue to pick yourself up and become THE BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE! Not only do you deserve it your child does too, you were picked to be a mom for a reason ❤️.

Ways to help people dealing with postpartum

Tell them you love love them more then often

◦ Let them know you are there with no judgement

◦ Remind them of their beauty

◦ Let them get some “me time”

◦ Compliment their mothering nature

◦ Help them get the help they need

◦ Check in on them

Being A mother is no easy task it is exhausting and rewarding at the same time . It has its ups and downs , smiles and frowns but , you do your absolute best .

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Dear , New Mothers ….

To all my New Mother’s out there I want to say congratulations!! It’s okay to not really know how you feel when you first find out that you are expecting it’s a lot to take in at first. When I first found out I was overcome with every emotion all at once, then I was I thought WTH 😩!!!! I can barely take care of myself how am I supposed to take care of a baby. It wasn’t until I got the first sonogram that I got this sense of courage where I knew they I could do this, I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy task but the greatest gifts in life are never easy to obtain. This would be something that changed me and my life for the better.

Becoming a Mother is one of the most emotionally satisfying things that you can ever experience, birth is something you will never forget. It’s all worth it in the end.

I am learning that just like you can be your biggest supporter you also be your biggest critic. Time and time again I put myself down and start doubting myself as a parent over the littlest things. I will never forget that my son was just a few weeks old and he ended up getting thrush, for those who don’t know what that is it’s a yeast infection in the mouth that babies can get from milk being left on their tongue. It’s a very common thing for them to get but, I felt like I was the worst mother in the world. That experience taught me that things are going to happen beyond my control and you can either beat yourself up about it or do what you need to do to make the situation better!

A few tips / Words of Wisdom

1.”Everyone is going to have an Opinion”- from the time I found out I was pregnant to the time I gave birth. EVERYBODY wanted to tell me what to do, what not to do etc…… I’m not saying that advice is a bad thing because as a first-time mother I didn’t know a lot of things but, it got to a point where everyone was drowning me with their opinions it just felt like too much.So I advise any New mother to appreciate the advice but also know when to ignore it because there is something you have to learn on your own.

2. ”it’s okay to need a break ” this is the most important thing that I am learning, its okay to get overwhelmed and ask for help because babies can be a lot! Speak up when your baby won’t stop crying and you feel like your going to lose it sometimes you have to take a couple minutes to compose yourself. If you need to get out for a little bit find someone who is willing to babysit so that you can go for a walk just get you some ”Me time”.

3. ”Schedules are everything ” I am learning that with your baby and even yourself it’s important to establish a schedule. Trust me it will help in the long run.

4. ”Breastfeeding is Hard” I always knew I wanted to breastfeed but, I never knew how challenging it could be.. From the sore nipples to the latching and pumping it can be a lot at first. my advice to you is to set a goal, I wanted to breastfeed at least until four months and keeping that in mind helped me reach my goal. I am even thinking about continuing for two more months. If you can’t keep up with that’s completely fine!!!! You have to learn what’s best for you!

5. ”Don’t compare yourself to other mom” EVERYONE is different that’s just something beyond our control. So if you see another mother that looks like she has everything figured out don’t put yourself down about it. Befriend her and ask her all her secrets, you have to remember that this is a learning experience and babies di do not come with instructions. So we have to stick together

The Things Nobody wants to talk about 😩

They always say everything changes when you become a mother .. Your probably thinking well duh ! The body changes , The mood swings .. but they never really tell you about what happens afterbirth . Mentally and Emotionally I wish someone could tell me about the fight that you have to put up .. when you’re holding your 2-day old baby in your arms uncontrollably sobbing because you feel so overwhelmed.

Let me be the first to say the first couple of months can be hard. There are going to be times where you feel overwhelmed, times where you feel like depression has latched itself on to you. Times where you may what to even give

Just Remeber YOU CAN DO IT!!! No matter how hard things get you have to realize you were chosen to take on the amazing task of becoming a Mother. It’s a long road ahead especially if you’re in the first stretch like me with a four-month-old, the best advice I can offer is to find ONE friend someone you can vent, cry even scream too about everything you feel, someone who is positive and can uplift you at your lowest. if you don’t have a reliable friend that’s fine go buy a journal and get to writing! Write about your feelings and what can help you feel better, write an encouraging letter to yourself if need be. Find something that makes you sane and helps you get through it!

Motherhood is a Sisterhood Stop shaming and putting down each other and start Uplifting and encouraging ‼️